Former wedding planner Stephanie Varda https://www.svardalifecoach.com/ is now a life coach specialising in stress management and bridal coaching and shares her top 5 stress busting wedding tips.
“We all know by now that weddings, whilst wonderful occasions, are also extremely stressful. Having worked in the wedding industry I’ve seen it all, but brides can still be surprised by just how overwhelmed by planning a wedding they can get.”
Top 5 stress busting wedding tips
1. Ditch the Dull and Grow the Glow!
Often brides get caught up in the little details of their wedding and forget the things that really matter. The most important thing is approaching your wedding in the right frame of mind. Ditch the Dull and Grow the Glow is a saying that you can use to remind yourself that your emotional readiness outweighs things like the colour of the favours. Set aside time to reflect on your current thoughts and feelings, how ready are you feeling to get married? When we deal with the bigger emotional issues, we are less likely to stress over the little things.
2. Work out your non-negotiables
The non-negotiables are the elements that you feel to be essential for your wedding day. Perhaps it’s having close family around you or maybe you’ve always dreamt of a particular venue. Often though, our true non-negotiables aren’t quite as simple as we might imagine, which can lead to discontent after the big day. It’s always advisable to undertake some self-discovery so you have a strong understanding of who you really are, and what matters. This time taken at the outset can save oodles of stress later on.
3. From Dreaming to Gleaming
Whether your wedding is going to be a lavish affair or something more intimate, it is useful to work on a vision for your big day. Pinterest away to your hearts content and in doing so you will create a vision that aligns to your values and your non-negotiables for the day. The great thing is that you can then share this vision with those that are involved in the wedding planning process, whilst clearly explaining your reasoning. Having this confidence and belief in your vision can reduce stress related to disagreements over wedding planning. Everyone is on the same page, and you can go from Dreaming to Gleaming!
4. Creating the Confidence
Stress before the big day can often be related to fear. Not only are you about to embark on a whole new chapter of your life, but there may be fears around the day itself- after all this is the one day in your life when all eyes will be on you! And when your confidence and self-esteem aren’t as high as
they could be, you can end up feeling really stressed. Take this time to bolster your confidence, as it will not only help you on your wedding day but in your future life too.
5. The Happy Ever After
Planning a wedding is a huge life event and it’s also a huge learning experience. When the wedding is all over, take time to reflect on what you learnt about yourself and your reactions to potentially stressful situations. If you’ve used the process as an opportunity to develop your understanding of yourself, you can build on this and maintain that inner sparkle.